Over the past few months, our family has learned some of life’s harshest lessons:
The real meaning of the word “terrified.”
Ten-year olds aren’t promised tomorrow.
There’s no age requirement for suffering.
Yep, all of those pretty much suck.
When we first heard Adelia’s diagnosis the good in life dimmed, our world shrank. I saw everything through a dull lens and used the word “dread” a lot and there was no inappropriate place for crying.
That was for the rest of us, but not for Adelia.
She ain’t got no time for that.
While her health declines, her capacity for happiness does not.
She cackles like a hen at random private jokes, likes nothing better than putting her brother in a headlock, hopefully till he loses consciousness, and knows when her mom’s back is turned so she can wheel off with a cookie.
While we’re focused on her dying, Adelia’s living.
She’s forced me to reevaluate. Can joy ride shotgun with sorrow? Can we find anything to celebrate during these sad days?
Well, since you asked here are a few things to consider:
We can still make silly videos and laugh our asses off.
We can still just plain laugh our asses off.
Homemade chocolate cake still restores the soul.
Singing Old MacDonald Had a Farm is never wrong.
We can watch Sofia the First on a 72-hour loop and not lose our minds.
My daughter still needs me to tell her how to make green beans.
My daughter can still get pissed off when I tell her how to make green beans.
Online oyster shucking parties are a thing. Go ahead, Google it.
Teenagers still know everything.
Little boys still think fart noises are hilarious.
Grown up boys still think fart noises are hilarious.
Candy before dinner is still awesome.
Hospice nurses can become our BFF’s.
My chest can still puff with pride over the accomplishments of my five other grandchildren. Talking to them, spending time with them, still soothes every ill.
Dogs still love unconditionally.
We can still count the stars from a hospital bed.
To feel Adelia’s heartbeat under the palm of my hand is still an extraordinary thing.
My family is still the well of love I draw from that’s never run dry.
Watching my husband hold his grandchildren makes my world right.
A forty-pound, tiny slip of a girl can take a fifteen round beat-down in the fight of her life and still get up swinging.
11/27/2017 02:59:08 pm
Sending love, hugs and strength. She's a wonder. xo
11/29/2017 09:04:14 pm
Thank you Claudia. She is, indeed, a wonder.
11/29/2017 09:28:21 pm
Thank you, Claudia. She is, indeed, a wonder.
11/27/2017 04:54:15 pm
And again, I love you! ❤️
11/29/2017 09:04:59 pm
And again, I'll take it my friend! Love to you.
11/29/2017 09:28:50 pm
And again, I'll take it. Love to you my friend.
11/27/2017 05:14:43 pm
♡♡ . No words. Just Love !
11/29/2017 09:05:41 pm
Thank you. We are so appreciative of all the love coming our way.
11/29/2017 09:29:39 pm
Love's the best. We are so appreciative of all the love being sent to us.
11/27/2017 08:57:38 pm
*sigh* once again your words brought me to tears and once again, there were bursts of giggles through the tears...You and your family are so dear to me. Love you...
11/29/2017 09:06:14 pm
As you are to us. You're family now. Love to you.
11/27/2017 10:20:36 pm
Having been through the death of a child way too young, I too, had to be taught, that there is always something to be thankful for and laugh about IF you look. Some days are harder than others to find it and some days, you just gotta make shit up. Bravo Adelia for showing those grown-ups how to live!!
11/29/2017 09:08:57 pm
I'm so sorry to hear that. It's the hardest, saddest thing. And you are exactly right. Some days there's just crying. Some days we laugh.
11/28/2017 07:45:04 am
Hi Kathleen- just wanted to say-thinking of you and your family.💕
11/29/2017 09:09:18 pm
Thank you, Jessica. I so appreciate it.
12/8/2017 05:41:29 pm
You are an amazing writer and Adelia is quite the little superstar! Sending you love and light and praying for you all. You go Adelia! Not everyone needs to live beyond 10 to change the world for the better. xoxo
12/14/2017 08:21:18 am
Thank you, my sweet friend. You are so right. A person's impact on the world isn't determined by the amount of time they spend in it.
2/19/2018 05:26:47 pm
You have said it all beautifully. My heart goes out to you and your family. Devastating. I read your review of the Mitford series on GoodReads and was so impressed. You said what I wanted to say but so much better.
2/19/2018 05:40:27 pm
Thank you Sandra. How sweet of you to say such kind things and to take the time to search out my blog. I don't really blog anymore but Adelia's situation sometimes inspires me to post. Thank you, my social media friend!
6/9/2018 11:20:35 pm
Beautiful testament to your love for your granddaughter. Wish you both the best as you laugh in the present, facing the specter of death.
8/14/2019 08:19:47 am
Thank you so much for your kind thoughts and for taking the time to read and reply.
8/13/2019 04:49:31 pm
Prayers for little Adelia and may each moment you all have be filled with laughter , wonderment and thoughts to cherish all the rest of your days. Hugs and love.
8/14/2019 08:22:26 am
Thank you. Surprisingly we laugh a lot. She is a wonder and we are trying to feel gratitude for every day she is here. I appreciate you reading and taking the time to comment.
8/13/2019 09:11:20 pm
Amazing thoughts! Thank you.
8/14/2019 08:18:54 am
Thank you for reading. I so appreciate it.
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