There’s something so moving about the absolute confidence young children have in our judgment.
They trust us.
They believe to their core that we wish them well.
Over the past several days, I got to know my granddaughter, and I lived these truths. Amelie lives on the opposite coast so I haven’t seen her as much as I have my other grandkids who live nearer. In fact, it’s safe to say she didn’t know me at all.
But, we got on like a house afire.
Without a thought, she’d hold my hand. Sit on my lap. Get in my car.
She believed everything I said.
That, my friend, is a terrifying responsibility.
Unfortunately, I’m one of those who can’t see my own life while I’m in it. It’s only in hindsight that I see the light. Like a grain of sand in an oyster, my often-painful life experiences evolve, and become a pearl over time.
When my kids were small, I was still a kid myself and unable to appreciate their devotion and dependence.
I did my best, but couldn’t see the wonder.
For some reason, spending time with Amelie allowed me to fully realize what I’d had…and missed. The way she’d lie next to me on my pillow and tell me her stories, breathless, anxious to please, to get out all the words. And no matter how inane my reply, she'd soak it in, because if I said it - it meant something to her. Despite my many shortcomings, she felt I deserved her attention and affection. Just like that.
When asked by her Dad why she felt sad that we were leaving, she said without pause, "Because I love Mimi."
Isn't that the way it is with kids? Faster than the speed of sound they fall for you, and you for them.
Then, it hit me.
I am a lucky soul indeed.
Multiply Amelie times six and you’ve got my life.
I’ve got six grandkids who fill me up with all things good and true. They like to spend time with me, they make me feel clever and laugh at my jokes. They sing me songs, show me their dance moves, draw me pictures, and call me on the phone. They are funny, smart, eccentric, and they give me so much more than I could ever give them.
There’s a lot I don’t know about parenting, or grand parenting – except this:
It is an honor to be loved by a child.
9/29/2014 05:27:42 am
God, I wish my own two kids were that age again, when they adored me and my every utterance. Lately, every thing I say starts an argument or they get defensive. All my friends and siblings say it's just a phase, and is very age appropriate but it sucks. I sure hope my kids don't wait to have kids til they're as old as I was (I was 39 when I had my first) or I'll never experience the pleasure of grand children! She's a love, so adorable.
9/30/2014 01:59:38 am
It will pass Claudia! They get out of that phase. When they have kids of their own they really shape up.
9/29/2014 05:29:02 am
I read your blog during my lunch and it made my day. What a wonderful family you have and thank you for sharing these precious moments.
9/30/2014 02:00:11 am
Thank you, Suzie. So glad you read and take the time to comment. I do have a pretty cool fam. Love them.
9/29/2014 10:06:40 am
And your post just warmed me right down to my soul! Beautiful Kathleen ... and so very true. There's no other love so pure on this earth than that of a child's. You're indeed very blessed. I'm so glad you had this time with Amelie and I thank you for sharing your experience and touching all of us with this wonderful post.
9/30/2014 02:00:50 am
Thank you, Marcia. There's nothing quite like grandkids, is there?
9/30/2014 02:01:15 am
Thank you, Liv. I so appreciate you reading and commenting.
9/30/2014 02:09:23 am
She's a love, that's for sure. Amazing how our hearts can expand to love so many people. Thank you for reading and commenting. I so appreciate it.
9/30/2014 11:07:17 am
Great. Just visited our grankids. How true.
9/30/2014 02:40:06 pm
Thanks so much for reading and leaving a comment, Mark! So nice to see you here. Yes, grandkids are nirvana.
10/11/2014 12:31:21 pm
Such a beautiful post...and like you, many of us don't see the wonder in life until hindsight. I had my kids OLD and still didn't get it....I miss those days when they did believe you and thought you were the best. IF ONLY I had relished it and not taken it for granted.
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